On The Danni Star Nanny Controversy

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Danni Starr (Source: Brian Stukes / Getty)

93.9’s “Fam In The Morning” show was trending on Twitter Thursday morning, but is all publicity good publicity?

Not at the expense of a loyal co-worker, someone you call a friend and for damn sure not at the expense of a hard-working Black woman, who reserves the right to determine whom she allows around her children and husband.

It all went down on International Women’s Day, yet here we are discussing two men, whose idiotic plan to ambush their female co-host led to a point-of-no-return humiliation of a Black woman, whose emotional exit from the show was the stuff of nightmares. And to a proper drag of said men, one of whom was read for filth by his very own wife.

Listen to it all go down, below:

Let’s rewind.

Danni Starr, co-host on the “Fam In The Morning,” posted a job-listing on social media in search of a nanny. An unnamed woman, who boasts that she is a model, actress and singer, who “raised” her nieces and nephews (read: she ain’t got no damn nanny experience) responded to Danni’s listing in hopes of being hired, however, she received no response.

Danni later took to social media to comment on the applicant’s appearance. Without naming names or exposing who slid in her DMs for consideration, Danni explained she didn’t hire the woman because she was too “pretty” and was being proactive in selecting who she allowed in her home and, more specifically, around her man. Basically, she found herself doing what so many of us do — trying to protect ourselves from our deepest insecurities that we are not good enough for our partners, and making every decision possible to keep our homes intact.

Yet, Danni’s co-hosts, DJ Quicksilva and 5’9, thought it would be a good idea to seek out that woman and invite her on the show.

The social media model, singer, actress-turned-nanny, for her part, decided to use her 15 ~~minutes~~ seconds of fame to stand on her Instagram soapbox and carry the torch for “pretty chicks,” while confronting Danni about her insecurities.

Let me salute the father, the son and the holy ghost because Lawd knows, they all deserved an a** whoopin. Let’s just be clear on one thing, first and foremost, above all else: Danni, who, for the record, revealed that her father cheated on her mother with their nanny, reserves the right to hire or not hire whomever she chooses. Point-blank, period. Furthermore, I don’t need to tell any woman reading this how hard it is out there in this digital age. Insecurities are real and they happen to the best of us. And Danni is brave to admit hers.

But, this is less about her insecurities and more about the betrayal by her co-hosts.

DJ Quicksilva and 5’9, in their limited man-sight, claimed they were pushing the equality narrative forward, but instead made a mockery of the movement. Their shallow perspectives allowed them to hold one “pretty” woman on a pedestal and their (also attractive co-host) on the defense, as she found herself blocking shot after shot at her self-esteem. All of which forced Danni to reveal deeply personal information, like how many times she’s been cheated on and how she trusts her partner, but still maintains a healthy dose of reality.

Instead of putting an end to it when Danni grew visually and audibly upset, Quicksilva and 5’9 demanded to have their voice heard, which they only used to bolster ole IG model’s superficial attacks.

“The two of y’all can kiss my ass,” she shouted back.

Let’s be clear here, because I believe I speak for many women when I say this: I don’t want no damn Instagram opportunist, with zero professional experience, watching my children either. But the simple issue is that Black women can’t express such sentiments without being labeled a hater. Because let’s be real, I don’t know one man who would let even a Michael-B-Jordan-adjacent man cater to his wife.

Furthermore, Danni’s worries are not without merit, as it’s not exactly a new thing for men to cheat with women close to the family. Shall we point to the evidence? Arnold Schwarzenegger, Ben Affleck, Mick Jagger and Jude Law all carried on alleged affairs with their nannies.

Now, being that it is Women’s History Month, I’m going to keep it light on homegirl who thought she was fooling us with her strip-eyelash, thin, “pretty chick” argument. But shame on you, ma’am, for allowing yourself to be used as a pawn by these men and living up to the vibe that didn’t get your ass hired in the first place. Furthermore, because you apply for a job, doesn’t mean you automatically get hired. I don’t care how much you need money.

Social media drags aside, even DJ Quicksilva’s wife called into the show to give him the verbal lashing he deserved.

https://twitter.com/TalkToEmBee/status/971760039894700032

For his part, he took to Instagram to defend his side of the mic.

https://www.instagram.com/p/BgEkVSPlzVD/?taken-by=djquicksilva

As Black women always do, Danni forgave her misguided-in-the-moment co-hosts and used the opportunity to remind women to be unapologetic in their voices and stances.

https://instagram.com/p/BgExcOYAdug/

Clearly, DJ Quicksilva and 5’9 thought this whole situation would end up as one big joke and ratings gold. But while the drama proved to be good for ratings, it was detrimental to the show and their friendship. When did it become OK to take away a woman’s discernment over her own family? I felt Danni’s pain as she put aside her pride to divulge her most vulnerable secrets to a woman whom she barely knew, based on the predicament she was put in by men. To then have those men, who knew about her previous experiences, out her in a position that would undoubtedly trigger those issues, must have been absolutely unbearable.

Perhaps men won’t understand the depths of the hurt, but it constantly feels like men place us on a pedestal only to kick out the legs from under us. Because if it isn’t Danni one day, it will be Ole Instagram Model the next day.

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In Defense Of Danni Starr Against Men Who Make A Mockery Of Our Pain was originally published on hellobeautiful.com