Msn Life Style says they might now why females are single … Check out the 9 things that could be keeping you single ladies.
Asking About His Five Year Plans Too Soon:
“Talking about at what age you’d like to get married and have kids too early on in the conversation changes the whole tone of trying to get to know someone,” says Jessi Bockting, from Louisville, Kentucky. “It suddenly feels like a job interview.”
Seeing Being Single as a Problem:
This kind of thinking can lead women to believe they’re being “too picky” or “too needy,” says Karin Anderson, Ph.D., the author of It Just Hasn’t Happened Yet, and it can cause them to create a fake personality. “When they present this phony self, they naturally attract the wrong men, and ultimately these relationships fail,” she says.
Not Making New Single Friends:
“Continuing to make friends when you’re single can be as important as getting out and meeting men,” says Kate Galvin, from Philadelphia. “When you don’t have a circle of girls also facing singledom, you don’t have anyone kicking your butt to get out there and meet people. It’s easier to hang out with your married/in a relationship/platonic pals than motivate yourself to go out.”
Watching Too Many Chick Flicks
“Chick flicks paint a vision of love that just isn’t realistic, and then you have all these expectations and you start painting a picture of ‘the perfect man’ in your mind. But a person’s imperfections are what make him interesting, and that doesn’t mean he won’t be right for you.”
Going Out in a Huge Group of People:
“The best size group to go out with is three,” says Shannon Fox, the author of Last One Down the Aisle Wins. Going out alone might invite men to talk to you but only because you seem vulnerable and desperate. Two is too easily unbalanced. (What nice guy wants to ask a girl to dance if it means leaving her friend all alone?) And four is too intimidating — no guy wants to risk putting himself out there in front of a gang of potentially critical women.”
Over-Romanticizing Your Perfect “Type”:
“There was a period of time I wanted to date only tortured artists — I just love the idea of being someone’s muse,” says Erica DelGrosso, from Queens, New York. “But I realized that they are tortured because they are selfish and make things hard for themselves. Only when I finally let that go did I meet my husband, who constantly inspires me.”
Telling Him What You Think He Wants to Hear:
“I used to work so hard to make sure my interests matched those of the guys I was trying to attract — I’d play up things I was mildly into. But the second I stopped trying so hard to impress others and started doing things that made me happy, I gained loads of self-confidence and love found me.”
Asking for Too Much Love Advice:
“When you ask for 20 people’s advice on what to do in a particular situation, you can become paralyzed by information overload and end up going against your best judgment, says Lisa Daily, the author of Stop Getting Dumped! “Just go to one or two close friends when you need a hint in the love department. Or even ask yourself if you need advice at all — most of the time you probably already know what to do.”
Complaining About Your Day on a Date:
“When chatting about your day, it may seem natural to bring up the bad day you had at work, the argument with your friend or the fact that you couldn’t find parking earlier,” says James Wadley, Ph.D., the author of Would You Marry You? But on a first date you might want to “keep your bad attitude at home, and then go out to meet others to show them how adaptable, resilient and sexy you can be.”
