Singer Ciara set the internet ablaze after reposting a seemingly single-shaming sermon from Pastor John Gray.
In the clip, the pastor advises women to stop “walking in the spirit of girlfriend,” in order to get a husband. Ciara co-signed the message on her Instagram, captioning the post “Level up. Don’t settle.”
Ciara posted a follow up message, telling fans she shared the message because she struggled with self-love.
“I found myself at my lowest moment. I was a single mom sitting at home, and then I realized that the perfect love I was looking for was how God loves me, how He wants me to be loved, and who He was calling me to be as a mom and a woman.”
We understand the importance of self-love, sis, but the narrative that women need to become something else to be considered marriage material is old and played out.