You want the big relationship − where you get your mail at the same address, plan vacations a year in advance and have inside jokes and nicknames.
Yet, despite a string of promising relationships, you’re still not partnered up. Sure, it could be the LAMES you’re meeting. But if all your romances crash and burn – or first dates don’t even make it out of the gate – it’s time to question if you’re driving them off?!?!?
“A lot of women and men think, I’m too old, I’m too fat, I’m not wealthy enough,” says PerfectMatch.com relationship expert Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D. “It’s usually not those things.”
So what is it? Read on for the 9 Dating Don’ts that could be sabotaging your love life:
1. Your must-have list is pages long!– An unrealistic checklist is a common mistake people make. Focus on things that are truly non-negotiable. Then do your love life a favor and relax about the rest.
2. You’re still stewing over your last relationship– That anger and bitterness is a big turnoff, and it can keep you from being ready for a new relationship. It’s not his or her fault your last relationship didn’t pan out so keep those issues to yourself and don’t bring them into the new or it won’t be a new!
3. You overshare too fast– cancer, business failure,ect.. too soon! Don’t unpack all your baggage on the first date. Let the guy/girl get to know you as a sensual, happy, sexy woman/man. Once he or she knows, their more likely to want to go the distance.
4. You always fall for unavailable guys or girls– If unavailable guys/girls are a pattern, it might be you who’s afraid of commitment, not the men you’re meeting.
5. You cling like Velcro- If you’re the type to call your man/woman 24/7 and crash girls/guys night because you “missed them,” beware! Get a life. When you have your own friends and activities, it shows him/her you’re secure enough.
6. You hop into bed too soon!!!- If you’re used to casual hookups, that love ’em-and-leave ’em attitude may hurt when you want something deeper. You should delay sex for three months with a new partner to find out if you’re interested in them, if you’re compatible (aside from the smokin’ chemistry), and if they looking for something more too.
7. You’re hooked on relationship drama– A nice person does not want that! Breaking this cycle often takes introspection and outside help!
8. You think you can change him or her– You may have the best intentions in wanting him to stop smoking, eat fewer burgers, drink less beer or get a better job.But if you push for changes he doesn’t want, you’re in for a world of hurt. Talk with your guy about why you’d like him to make a specific change, like not smoking, and see what he’s willing to do.
9. You mistake cooling passion for goodbye- Maybe you don’t smile anymore when he calls. Or you think about him only 23 hours a day. If you want a bond that outlasts the butterflies, you have to roll with the hard − and boring − stuff.
When it comes to dating, times sure have changed, and with that, a new crop of dating dilemmas has emerged. But no matter what year it is, some dating rules should stand the test of time! for more log on to lifescript.com
