Women can be extremely cunning when they’re trying to conceal a huge secret, including hiding an affair from their significant other. In some cases, their best friend may not even know what’s going on.
But even the craftiest of women may show signs of extracurricular activity or unusual behavior; you just have to learn to pick up on them.
It goes without saying that there are more obvious signs of a cheat, like staying out late and being dodgy about her whereabouts or phone calls. But there are other signs that aren’t so obvious and, if you aren’t prepared, you might miss them.
However, seeing one or more of the following behaviors is not a clear sign that your girlfriend is cheating. The only true indication is when you confront her and she fesses up.
So, without further ado, here are eight signs that your lady could be cheating on you.
1- Her approach to sex changes
Forms of this sign can range from wanting to try new positions to becoming more dominant in the bedroom to a sudden infrequency of sex. The latter of the three may be a huge sign to some, but to those very few who can go without it for long periods of time (by choice), it may not be as clear. If she’s traditionally the instigator in the relationship and she isn’t instigating anymore, or less frequently, a red flag should be going up, as she could be getting it from someone else.
2- She’s too accommodating
Is your girlfriend suddenly encouraging your poker night with the boys and cleaning your place when she has never done it before? Is she trying extremely hard to please you by making your favorite meals every evening? Does she bring over small tokens of affection? If this is unusual behavior, and you know she hasn’t been watching Dr. Phil, then guilt could be eating away at her.
3- She dresses differently
This can be an obvious sign if a drastic change was made overnight. If it was a progressive shift, you may not have noticed anything out of the ordinary. Assess when she started wearing those stiletto heels and low-cut blouses. Determine if anything else happened at the time of this change: Did she get a new job? Did she lose weight? Then, decide whether you consider this normal behavior or if it’s a drastic change in her usual dressing pattern.
What if she has a bunch of new friends or says weird things?
4- She’s overly defensive
You ask her a simple question like “What did you do today?” and suddenly she’s tripping out. If she appears edgy when you ask her insignificant questions about her day and then accuses you of being controlling or nagging, this could be a sign that she has something else cooking. If she has something to hide, she may feel like you’re investigating and are out to make her tell the truth.
5- She makes new friends
Making new friend can be a good thing, unless she isn’t introducing any of them to you. And if she won’t reveal where they’re going or if she’s giving you vague details, then these so-called “friends” are something you should be concerned about.
6- She reveals too much
She tells you all the details of her night out with her friends, including what they ate, who was there and who said what. This is all information you probably wouldn’t care about on any other day; you may even wonder why she’s telling you all this trivial stuff. Heads up: This information could mean a lot if you read between the lines.
7- She initiates strange conversations
She starts asking you hypothetical questions like “What do you think of people who have affairs?” or she begins telling you about a “friend” who is cheating on her boyfriend. This could be her way of gauging your reaction to her cheating ways.
8- She’s mean to you in public
She’s getting nasty, making fun of you to your face. And it’s not the “I’m just kidding” type of fun. She picks on you in front of your friends. Something’s probably up, as couples should have each other’s backs in public. It could be that she’s coming out of her shell and you’re her target. If she’s cheating, she won’t feel the need to be nice to you anymore. Think about it; she has someone else on the side, why should she worry about you?
keep one eye open
Now don’t be paranoid; the purpose of listing these signs is to provide you with a guide so you’ll be aware of the not-so-obvious signals. Pay attention to her behavior and personality, but don’t go overboard. If she starts dressing differently or makes new friends, that doesn’t necessarily mean she’s having an affair.
So make sure you have all the facts before accusing her of cheating. She may be going through other changes in her life that you aren’t aware of.
However, if you do discover she’s cheating on you, then dump her immediately and find a woman who will appreciate you.